When you start getting very interested in another person, asking personal questions is a great way to get to know them. However, if you start getting too personal too soon you risk pushing them away. There are still some good questions you can ask in the early stages without getting too deep. Here are some of the best personal questions to ask and when to ask them.

Favorite Things

Even if the first few conversations you can ask about some of their favorite things. Finding out what some of their interests are will not only help you understand them a little better, it will give you some good ideas for potential dates, or indeed how far they will go, for example you could ask them if they have ever been Swinging or what is their attitude to sex before marraige. While these are technically personal questions, they aren’t the kind that people tend to shy away from.

Family Questions

Even in the first couple of conversations you can always ask about family. Something as simple as how many siblings they have is personal, will give you an idea of the kind of background they come from, and won’t scare them away. If the family dynamic is strained, they will let you know and you can wait to broach the subject again later.

Past Relationships and Sex

It’s better to wait to ask about past relationships and sex until the relationship has become a little more intimate. Once the relationship reaches a more intimate level you can open the door to asking about past relationships. Be prepared for these to be painful conversations. Some people carry baggage from past relationships for years before they are able to open up about them. When it comes to sexual history, it’s a good idea to know what you are dealing with before you sleep with someone. Even if you think they have been open, you should still be careful.